You know the feeling... it's like a hole has been torn through your stomach and someone has ripped out the most tender part of your being... It’s there 24/7. That empty, depressing, hopeless, sickening feeling that relentlessly clouds every aspect of your life from the time is starts.
The Break Up!
Like John Mayer wrote in one of his brilliant songs “...when you’re dreaming with a broken heart, the waking up is the hardest part, you fall out of bed, and down on your knees, and for a moment you can hardly breathe...” The feeling is inescapable!
Then you go slightly insane. You know what I mean. The endless stream of text messages, the constant emails, calling your ex several times a day, constantly checking you emails or text messages to see whether he or she has had a change of heart... you’re feeling so depressed and possibly even confused as to why they left you, that you have to leave the radio off because every song makes you think of them and, as well as a major loss of desire to eat, you have also the problem of bingeing on food and drinking to contend with until it finally culminates in the drunk telephone call (those few drinks were supposed to make you forget about them...) where you might even beg them to take you back.
Now while not everyone does all these things and has all these feelings the fact still remains that for the majority of people involved in a breakup with their partner will have at least some of these symptoms to contend with.
Let me tell you, at this stage you need something more than an apology and the promise that you will change (even if it wasn’t your fault) to get them back. What you need is something which is going to want to make them reconsider their decision and start to show interest in a reunion, in other words, something to give you your power back.
Now even if you have been acting like a crazy person and have done most if not all of the above stalker tactics , it is still not too late to regain some of that lost ground and change the situation. So rather than embarking down the road of further self degradation, take a step back and in a calm and cool manner, give them some spark which is going to reignite their interest.
The first step should be to write them a short letter telling them that although you have been acting a little crazy, you have now come to your senses and that now you have thought about it, you now agree with the break up. You even thought about it yourself from time to time before it actually happened. Don’t forget that one of the most endearing and predictable traits of human beings, is that they always want what they can’t have!
What you need at this stage is some pretty unconventional methods and this is just the first of them. This is part of the overall reconnection technique which is essential to getting back together. Imagine it... being able to listen to music again, not to mention enjoying food, sleeping peacefully again and being back in a healthy loving relationship with a future...
